Speaking to the troops 1

I love speaking to the troops and their spouses about keeping families together by taking care to guard each other’s hearts and having that loving bond that lets their deployed husband or wife know that they are cherished at home… and I love giving away Cherries Over Quicksand books for the best “Hoorah!” yell.  We have fun!  (This is one of my favorite pictures with Welcome Home Troops and some amazing soldiers volunteering for the day, at an event at Lake Elsinore.)

I’ll never forget another event, when I spoke at a Camp Pendleton on the beach and we (me and the two lady comedians) found out that we had to walk about a quarter-mile in the sand to get to the stage.  I was wearing a cute skirt and Betty Grable high heals.  Instead of approaching the watchful crowd with the usual light dance in my step… my feet and shoes kept disappearing into the soft sand.  The three of us ladies couldn’t help but giggle at how we must have looked to the crowd as we struggled to the stage, smiling like nothing was wrong.

 

 

When we finally made it to the stage, a soldier took my hand with caring concern, then said in a charming but loud southern drawl, “We didn’t know if you were going to make it Mam!”

All four of us were laughing now, as he helped us pull ourselves onto the stage, then the audience joined in our laughter.  Our unplanned hilarious approach had set the stage for a fabulous day.

That afternoon we were lucky enough to experience one of those surprise crazy life moments that made a u-turn… right into a blessing.

I wonder what would have happened if we had just laid down in the sand… maybe they would have sent the rescue team to get us?   Ah!

We decided that Embarrassing is Good right? lol!!

I would like to thank our troops, on this Memorial Day, for their service and caring hearts.

God bless you-all!

What would be pictured on your book cover?   And for extra credit… why?

This is the my 2nd Edition Cherries Over Quicksand book cover. The reason they look so happy is, well for one thing they are a happy couple. My models are family and they make a point of telling people that they have read the book! lol! My favorite response from readers is that… they just want to be nice to their woman or man because they “get it” now, and want to live the fun romance they began with… forever! That’s always pure happiness for me to hear!

It looks like my next book cover will be a deep ruby red and a little mysterious. Now that my readership is over thirty percent male, I am really having fun with the graphic-creative (is that a word? 😉 ) side of authoring.

I am told by industry professionals that the title and the author name should always be readable from across the book store, that the lettering should not be too fancy and the graphics should tell a story or the theme of the book. I like that my books are placed next to Anthony Robbins books (Ricardo… Robbins) on the book shelves, it’s such a cozy and interesting place to be… and very busy!

What would be pictured on your book cover? And why? Can we have a little hint about your story? ;D

 

Last night I was talking with a friend about dating.  “What would you want to do on a date?” he asked.  I’m in the middle of so many deadlines I had to purposely change my thinking channel from writing to dating… I know, that’s kind of odd since I write about dating. lol!

Anyway, I decided that an evening ocean cruise would be fun.  I told him that I have always loved the feel of sea-spray on my face and the wind in my hair.  Lately the closest I have come to sea-spray in my face or hair is driving on PCH with the top down on my car… on my way to visit my dad, but that’s pretty cool too.

As I was thinking of fun times, sailing or cruising through ocean waves, I saw a “Google Alert” on my computer!

I love Google Alerts.  They are usually alerts from businesses that have found my Cherries Over Quicksand books, columns, radio shows or the Love Bites YouTube television show  I co-host with Jon Hansen.

It’s like someone saying, “Hey we found you and we Like You… we really, really like you!”  (Hehe!! I love Sally Field.)

Last night’s “Google Alert” was for Cherries Over Quicksand on Lybrary.com.  I went to the link where I saw that Lybrary.com has my book featured and all set up to sell on their site to people all over the world in their different currencies!   Readers living in Italy, England, Spain, France… or wherever… will be able to buy my book and know exactly the price in their currency at this Lybrary.com site.

I was so happy that someone else (a stranger) had found my book and decided to promote it… Again.  To me, that’s as awesome as a boat ride in the ocean, it was a great night.

A note to writers:  This is what can happen as Author’s get their books and names out on social media.  You never know who will want to have you speak at their event… or Feature you in a magazine, newspaper, on television or the radio… or on their site to help readers actually Purchase your book!

Authoring is fun.  I hope I’m inspiring those of you out there with a book just ready to fly out of your keyboard and onto pages then off to a publisher or printer so your book is available to readers.  I know it’s not easy, but no more waiting… get started okay?

Oh… and this morning, I woke up to a fabulous poem (or song?) about the wind, texted to my phone, from my friend.  Now I’m thinking about that ocean cruise again… poo…  back to work! lol!

 

 

I like to know a little something about my new reader before I sign a brand new book… so I can make the note I write inside Cherries Over Quicksand, personal and fun… but never silly or wild… okay sometimes, but only if the occasion calls for it! ;D

Sometimes I end up talking on the phone with readers especially if they are also aspire writers.  I have made many new friends around the world through becoming an author and hope to inspire others to do the same!

You can message me here or send me an email at: rhondaricardo@hotmail.com if you would like to order a personally signed 2nd Edition, Cherries Over Quicksand… and maybe talk about authoring too!

So, let me ask you… How would you sign your book?

XOXO                                                                                                            Cherries Over Quicksand.Signing                                                                                                                    Rhonda Ricardo 

Health care h#!!, TMZ, Lois Lane, links to amazing HELP!... And a place to post your website.

Health care Angels out there… TMZ, Lois Lane, links to amazing HELP!… And a place to post your website.

When people find out I work as a newspaper journalist they ask me all kinds of questions about how I get my stories.  They want to know if I write a political column, an advice column, if I get my stories like TMZ (LOL! No!), or if it’s just like being Lois Lane… the costume with my press-pass hat (above) I wore to the Halloween event I covered last week… and not one Superman costume in the crowd! Ah!;).

And the answer is… I write about leaders that raise amazing amounts of funds for people in all kinds of need from the elderly, to babies… and many of the people in-between facing unforeseen villain’s, like hunger, domestic violence and the big C; villain’s that snuck up on friends, family and neighbors to steal their joy.

These leaders (heroes) bring that joy back and I get to interview them to tell people (readers of my newspaper column) where to get the help they need or how more people can assist the non-profit to help even more people-in-need. These leaders (some revealed below) know how to bring the communities together, get their messages out and raise money while thanking their supporters with enjoyable nights of music, entertainment and gourmet meals; a huge win/win. I routinely see hundreds of new attendees come together to enjoy giving to needy causes while encouraging each other to give More! It is a very cool experience to write about, and I know how blessed I am to interview these leaders and giving people. How do they do it? (Revealed at the link below.)

So… what does this have to do with health-care? I think we have all either heard or read the troubling stories of people not being able to afford their needed health care. I don’t like hearing about how the health care world has gone mad but then I remember: It’s not so much about what is going on, it’s about how we react (with love) to what’s going on in our lives…

1 Corinthians 13:5-7 It (Love) does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

…but how do people in dire need keep a good attitude when they are presented with so much strife? Well, maybe they can get help and retain their strength by researching an additional phone number:

There are ordinary-extraordinary people all over the world that start foundations to help other’s facing catastrophic life issues or health hardships and their phone numbers or websites can be found on the Internet.  When I cover events that will benefit these caring foundations attendees regularly refer to the leaders and volunteers as “Angels” because they give their hearts, understanding and time to people in need.

Some people do not know about the many foundation’s and the volunteers that give their energy to raising monies to be able to help people facing the life’s storms that are close to each Foundation’s heart. Families in dire need of help with hospice care, diabetes, autism, child care and even animal care may find the answers they need by searching “Foundations”… then talking with a person at the appropriate foundation that is dedicated to helping people with that specific need, even if the caller cannot pay for the services.

It’s endearing to hear the stories of the people that have started some of these foundations, the one’s that were lost when needing help themselves, then like so many thankful people decided to become giving volunteers and tireless leaders to help other’s facing the same types of storms.

If someone you know is wondering how they are going to make it through without the money or insurance they need… please pass this message on or research the “Foundations” in their area yourself, then watch those in need relax and start healing with the love you just gave them.

When the San Diego Union-Tribune acquired The Californian/The North County Times I was not sure what I expected as far as continuing to write for the newspaper but… not only have I continued to cover major events that help those in need and interview our communities leaders, now for the San Diego Union-Tribune, they have added my new columns to some of my old (NC Times) columns (back to 2007) and photos at one convenient link.

You may find the organization that fills a need for your family or friends… or one you would like to help or call to inquire about volunteering… here at this link:

http://www.utsandiego.com/search/vertical/news.story/?q=Rhonda%20Ricardo

 

Yes, there are even organizations that will get children their school clothing needs or young ladies the prom dress they have always dreamt of! If you do not have a need for a foundation’s help, maybe you just discovered a foundation need you may want to fill in your community!

If you are starting a foundation or have a foundation that helps our world please post your link in the comments here! Thank you and God bless!

The Many Fabulous Arts and The Art of Business, continued...

How do artist choose the projects they will bring it to their audiences in this era?

I love the arts, they are beautiful, powerful and inspiring, especially music, sculpture, paintings, film, writing, acting, and dance, because each allows the artist make a statement and the audience a chance to enjoy their works.

While I was looking through the top grossing movies of 2013 what I noticed was our world’s viewing preferences were strong in character. As a writer I found it encouraging to see that our audience populations are primarily being drawn to wonder, adventure, innocent beauty, teamwork, kindness, family, goals, wisdom and dreams when spending their funds and time on entertainment.

“The arts are an even better barometer of what is happening in our world than the stock market or the debates in congress.” -Hendrik Willem Van Loon

Today’s IMDb Top 20 Highest Grossing Movies of 2013 (So Far) list reveals that the top four grossing movies are filled with excitement, fun, love and adventure with uplifting music for the more “family-minded” audience and I believe that speaks highly for what our world is craving, and that’s great news.

I speak with artists that are wondering if they need to delve into the darker or profane sides of their art genre to get noticed, it is a struggle many artists have faced.  Here, we can all see with this Top 4 Movie multi-million dollar grossing list (below) where the top movie attendance population has chosen to focus which could give artists a solid clue as to the direction people in our era want to spend their entertainment time and money.

1. Iron Man 3
2. Despicable Me 2  (Animated)
3. Man of Steel
4. Monsters University  (Animated)

So to those struggling artists I say…There will always be different sizes of audiences looking for the more shocking sides of art imitating life but today the world is primarily look toward fun-filled quests and action packed love stories mixed with family, friendship, adventures and human superhero’s, male and female that everyone can relate to whether in a painting, photograph, sculpture, dance, music, writing or visual arts, we all share that human spirit.

History shows, when dedicated artists let their strong character lead their artistic choices they will find their works instep with the fulfillment the world is craving.  If Hendrik Willem Van Loon (above) is correct, artists are doing a great job this year enlightening the world’s preferences! Happy creating artists!

*photo used with permission

Does it seem like… when one person in a group has jealousy issues and spying drama in their relationship the Green-Eyed Monster suspicions spread to surrounding couples like Vampires claiming more company? Jealousy is exhausting for the couple and all their friends listening to the stories, we hope this episode of Love Bites helps chase the monsters away to never bother happy loving couples again.

Everyone deserves trust, caring, mutual desires, gratitude and love in their romantic relationship. The list we share on this show for easily staying on the path to a non-jealous relationship is both comforting and sometimes embarrassing but I bet you all agree with the list after you listen to the show! I would love to read your comments. ;D

Extra: Please let us know what you think of the opening song “Energy” by Fire Tiger and their music video with singer Tiffany Alkouri at the end of the show… that lady has Energy! ;D

What is flirting? On this Love Bites we talk about how flirting is not all about physical attraction and sex, it is also about being interesting. Have you ever heard someone say, “The sex is great but he or she bores me” and wish their partner would just leave them alone or hides from their partner? It may seem like it would be difficult to stay continuously interesting or pleasantly mysterious in you partner’s eyes but on this Love Bites we talk about how to have the romance everyone deserves in their lives through Supercharged Flirting!

When I spoke with dating, engaged and married people about the subject’s their other-half talks about on the phone to keep the relationship romantic and spicy… I did need to use my Spanish dancer fan a few times but I received more funny or horrifyingly grotesque answers from people wishing their partner would be the hot person they dated in the beginning… so I had to include those answers too… heehe! And yes, Jon laughed and was a little confused at the strangely odd answers but we had fun on the show and ultimately we spelled out how to keep the passion in relationships through genuine continued flirting. I hope you enjoy the show here. ;D

Fun Trivia: Jon refers to Jennifer Cameron on the show, she is the mother of Jon’s four children and the love of his life looks like Marilyn Monroe, has an adorable laugh, their children are all under the age of ten and she also hosts the radio show “5 Alive”.

Love Bites with Rhonda and Jon: Dating with Romance and Humor

This is our first Love Bites show on-camera after we started our Love Bites radio show in February of 2012.  The set is not up on my side yet but that’s all right because the curiously blank background gives us all a really fast glimpse into Jon’s quick wit right off the bat.  Fun show!

Fun Trivia:  The call-in Love Bites radio show segment Jon references on this YouTube T.V. show produced a happy couple!  Yes, a man and a woman in two different cities in California called into our radio show about dating while raising children, afterwards they decided to meet and have been posting photos of the new couple at scenic designations like boating with super happy/romantic captions and comments.  And yesterday a photo of the couple in a beautiful park having fun with characters putting on a Fall show was posted!  Fun couple… we are very happy for them! ;D

So, dating… especially first dates, can be fun or just a funny story you might tell your grandkids one day but singles should decide to get out there and begin their romantic adventure… a wonderful he or she might walk into their path today.

Guys… yes I know women can be confusing and ladies…even confident guys can be shy too, but there are simple formulas for getting a great first date… and simple ways for her to let him know she wants him to ask her out.  We cover so much fun dating research here between laughter, that the newly dating might want to watch this twice before watching the next episode.  I just re-watched this show and was reminded about the Harley dates and the married ladies with their arms full of babies and groceries while her man is happily bouncing a basketball… those ladies now wish they had let him open their doors on dates so he knows from the beginning that she wants/expects and knows she deserves a gentleman… forever, just like he deserves the lady he wants and expects forever.

I’m not sure how this show moved into the body and mustache hair subject… but Jon wants to know if women like hair or not… how do I answer that? LOL!!   Well, I did and laughed pink-faced at the same time because, well… you’ll see if you have time to watch the show at this link here.  Don’t worry we keep it clean, PG… and smelling pretty! ;D

SHOW LINK: Building to the: I LOVE YOU & I LOVE YOU TOO response…Here on “Love Bites With Rhonda Ricardo” on The Jon Hansen Show

We went out the other night to celebrate the new show’s success with a great dinner and margaritas. Fiesta Time!!!  And of course… There were lots of singles out having a blast and talking about their latest wild, crazy and/or fun romances so I was in Heaven!! LOL!! ;D

It’s funny… when I go out to coffee, there are usually a few people talking about their relationships who will bring me and my friends into their fun conversations and we get to meet cool new people… but when I go out at night it seems like Romance is the topic on everyone’s mind in the place!  So many Romance Questions!! And of course I love it!! ;D

I’m posting the latest “Love Bites with Rhonda Ricardo” on The Jon Hansen Show here at a the LINK… but be ready for Jam-Packed information about How to know if he will say, “I love you” AND…How he will Know she is READY to say “I love you too”!

One of the many hints on this show segment is that lots of men have brought up how when they say, “You look beautiful” they get the response of…”No I don’t!” AH! LOL!!  Now… like some men… some women are just “shy or “bashful” in their own way… BUT men usually see this “No I don’t” response as childish and fishing for more compliments (and yes… some women are! But not me… hahah!! Ok me. JK! LOL!). (And some guys take this as a little warning that it could be the same response he’ll get if he says, “I Love You.”) All the men are hoping to hear after a compliment is a nice, “Thank you”… And if she says “Thank you” to his compliments… her kind response could be a great sign that she Does respond to his statements (with cool respectfulness… as Jon points out in the show)… And that she hears him and Believes him!

Romance has its fragile times… and the first “I love you” time is as sensitive as a soap bubble on a puppies nose.  So…with a simple response of “Thank you” to his compliments she is helping build a fabulous comfort level within the relationship… And staying out of that Quicksand! Ahhh!!  ;D

There are a whole lot more Romance tips at the show Link right under my picture above… and you can hit LIKE at the show site!… And you are welcome to listen more than once if you miss any of the points!!  So… please keep moving forward with a life of LOVE AND ROMANCE!  Thank you!!!… Also listen at the end for information about how to call into our new LIVE TV Show in a few days from all Around the World!!  I’m going to EARN that “Nobel Family, Love & Romance Peace Prize”! Even if I do keep adding words to the prize name! LOL!! ;D